Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Parents, you've got to keep movin' forward!
In previous posts, I gave you examples about the basic struggles people with disabilities go through while they are growing up. The basic struggles are; holding too much in, standing up for yourself, knowing that only the individual can move them-self forward and knowing when and who to ask for help.
It is important for parents of small children with disabilities to grieve and accept that their child will live with challenges. These realities are always going to be there, but they don't have to be a barrier for success. Just because a child has disabilities does not mean that they cannot live full lives in their community. Building up your child's confidence, responsibility, life and work skills will help them become more able to live independently in the future. Giving them space to grow and make mistakes is very healthy and important.
As parents, the more you accept your child for who they are, the easier it will be to follow their lead, letting them experience all that life has to offer; the good, the bad and the ugly. Once you let go a bit, you might be surprised at their improvements and what they can accomplish. This supportive effort will slowly help them learn, grow and get stronger. I am in my 40's, believe it or not, making a living because my parents accept and trust me to move forward at my own speed. I am responsible for myself and my life.
People with disabilities slowly become more comfortable with handling life's challenges when they know that there is support always around them.
All children are equally human in a different way. Love them and cherish them. Everyone has gifts.
I hope this helps you,