Every once in a while, everyone wakes up and is unsure what they want to
do that day.
When that happens, I find it is best to write a list of things you
can do, then decide if they have to be done that day, or if they can be put
off. One of the things I notice is that a lot of times, people like to
procrastinate, and that, I find very disturbing.
If the person is doing
something they need to do, that is all that matters. Yet, we hear a lot of
judging and that gets in the way of a lot of people’s emotions, especially
people who need help.
I went through a process this week where I was having
questions at work and people would answer me with things like, “You’ve been
here for 12 years, you should know how to do that.” Or, “Use common sense!”
We
need to be more understanding and listen to people who ask questions, because
whatever it sounds like to you, it is still important to them.
Being
understanding and listening are two very important goals toward guiding people.
Like, if you don’t want your child to smoke, you should not smoke in front of
them. This takes practice, so it is important if you can, to start doing it
with them early in a relationship. I want to stress that people do that,
because in my case, being heard is very important. I sometimes have a tendency
to ask too many questions if I am not told that they understand, sometimes I
don’t know they understand.
Have a good day,
Alyssa