Thursday, February 23, 2017

Changes Never Leave     

As I said in my last blog post:  isolation is the hardest everyday experience. The question is not, "Why does isolation always get in our way?" The question is, "How do we control isolation?" Isolation is always going to be in our life. Did you hear of the expression, "We take risks as we Change."? 
It has been known that 75% percent of the time we keep moving, and do not often stop to think of where we are at? There is an expression called, "What is on our table?" Then we take a deep breath and start to write a list to try to get our priorities in order. We seem to be on our computers or cell phones about 75% of the time. 
When we ask ourselves where we are at, we need to think of things like:  1) the bills we owe, 2) our grocery list, 3) our children (are they happy, are they growing well, etc.?), 4) dinner, and 5) bed time. Our thoughts are important , yet it is important to spend enough time with our children.

We need to train on how much time we do what is on our table. This is a list, in order of importance to me:  1) Our children; 2) dinner with family; 3) bed time - do we get enough sleep?; 4) paying our bills; 5) grocery shopping; and 6) we also need to set boundaries on our cell phones and computers.

Until next time...

Thursday, February 2, 2017


     Well, it's 2017, another year. From working out the changes I have had to for my future, such as:  Who is helping you feel supported?, What am I to do when today's supports is dying on me, and I need to make plans for a new support system? I notice a good amount of isolation goes on. This is related to the legend "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff." Isolation can cause fear, anger, frustration, etc., which is what happens to everybody, special  needs or not. But, people with special needs often take longer to get over isolation.

     What causes isolation? The easiest way to put it is:  everyday small things that are out of our control , that are in our way, and need to be done. Example:  eating, paying bills, feeding ourselves and family, schooling, etc. After doing it for a while, we get so caught up in doing the small stuff that we take it for granted and we often don't want to deal with change. Yet there is always going to be change. We need to train ourselves when we can set aside, or draw a line on the small stuff that we can't control. This is where the legend "Patience is a Virtue" comes in. Because society has become too much like, "well, we can fix it on the computer or, check on the phone or, I can fix it quickly. Now everybody has an attitude of wanting to finish things quickly and go off to the next thing. We're losing people who want to reinforce, motivate, encourage, guide, and are to people who are more dependent on the computer or cell phones. I found my personal isolation comes from taking everything too literally.

     American English is the only language where 75% of the words have more than one meaning. You see, people, especially people who have special needs, all have a best perspective and a worst perspective on life. We consider the best perspective is a gift from God. God wants us to keep the best perspective all of our life. By best perspective and worst perspective, I really mean their best strengths, abilities, talents, understanding level, etc. The best perspective is often considered their passion for life. My brother, through a documentary, has convinced me that my passion is to advocate.

     Today's society has proven that we need to train ourselves that the computer and cell phones are not the answer to everything. It is great that somebody has offered a quicker way to handle pressure, but it can't take over other responsibilities that take more work. It is 2017 now; in the year 1970, the case of people with special needs was a big question on how to handle it, and over time until 2017, we have learned a lot of technology that's new and can be a better help for people with special needs. This is why I say it's time to turn the page and move forward. We need to start focusing on taking more time on reinforcing, motivating, encouraging, guiding, etc., to help people, especially those with special needs, to see the positive side to things in their lives. The positive side of things helps people from getting caught in isolation. Seeing more good, more truth, more positive, helps people, especially people with special needs, to gain confidence and to move forward in life.

Until next time...